Why Starting When You Feel Ready is Completely Wrong

When I started my own website just two years ago to take my teachings to a bigger platform, there was a huge part of me that didn’t feel ready yet.

It went something like this:

“Yes! I feel it in my heart! I just have to do this!”

AND

“No! Forget it.

What if it doesn’t work?

Who am I to be a teacher and announce that I have any kind of “authority” to speak on these matters?

How do I do it?

What do I do first?

What if I do it and no one comes?

What if I fail?”

STORIESMy Virgo self is a perfectionist, and because I didn’t have this dream all figured out and it wasn’t a guaranteed success, I waited and waited with this gnawing tug at my heart that said,

“You know what you have to do.”

It wasn’t until the YES! in my heart became so loud over time that I had no choice but to listen. This ability to finally listen had everything to do with my spiritual practice.

The thing is though that the fears never left. NEVER. I still hear them. I just know now not to listen.

If I had waited until the fears went away and I felt only the YES!, I’d still be waiting.

I wouldn’t have a successful six-figure coaching business that has changed many women’s lives (and some special men too!).

I wouldn’t be able to support myself financially solely based on WHO I AM in the world. My work and me are one in the same (more on this coming soon).

I wouldn’t be able to #workfromwherever and live from Tulum, Mexico to Venice beach, California and travel in between.

If I had waited until I felt ready, I’d have a regular day job sucking my soul and feel completely out of alignment with my heart. I’d be fostering dis-ease in my body and my relationships would be suffering.

If I had waited, my doubts and fears and desire for perfection would have led to paralysis.

So, love, if you hear that voice that says, “You know what you have to do,” and you’re still not listening because there’s still some fear, it’s time. The fears aren’t going to go away. Yes, fear is designed to protect you. But sometimes that little fear devil takes his job to an extreme. You need to learn how to put him in his place and tell him kindly that you appreciate his concern, but you’re doing it anyway.

If you’re not living YOUR uniqueness in the world — however that looks for you — you are behind the eight ball.

I’ll leave you with a quote from Gary Vaynerchuk,

“There’s no excuse for anyone living in the US or anywhere right now to slog through his or her entire life working at jobs they hate, or even jobs they simply don’t love, in the name of a paycheck or responsibility. The internet makes it possible for anyone to be 100 percent true to themselves and make serious cash by turning what they love most into their personal brand. There no longer has to be a difference between who you are and what you do.”

It’s your time — you can do this.

xxT

PS – Leave me a comment below and tell me, 1) If you’re listening to your fears and it’s holding you back from doing what you really want, and 2) Proclaim and take one small step today towards your heart’s desires.

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On the road less traveled

I recently spent the weekend in Connecticut with my family.  My family is amazing. I love them. But my lifestyle choices are hard for them to accept. 

They don’t understand why I’ve chosen to live in Mexico, why I’m not married with 2 kids by now, and why I gave up my 6 figure career to be a {sometimes} struggling spiritual entrepreneur.  I know I’m not alone, so…..

What do you do when you’re facing family that is wrapped up in fear, doing the status quo, checking the “normal” boxes, and who just don’t “get” your alternative way of living?

You will most likely feel mad, sad, and frustrated.  You may also feel unsupported, alone, and scared.  You may even get angry and lash back with criticism.  And that’s all ok.  

But I ask you to recognize this:

They love you. It scares them. And they are scared for you.  

Deep down, it brings up stuff for them — stuff they they don’t even recognize because most likely they are living an unexamined life — that deep inside they long to live with such freedom and faith, but they can’t fathom how.  

You are facing your fears, their fears, and that makes them feel vulnerable. 

Their discomfort with your choices forces them to examine their life, question the purpose of life, and they’d rather not do that.  It’s simpler to unconsciously follow the pack.
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Quit controlling it all

shaktiThere’s been a recurring theme in my life lately.  The lessons consistently seem to be about….

releasing
letting go
going with the flow
being playful
passionate
patient
and present
feeling
trusting
embracing the unknown

.in other words, being feminine.

Flowing and feminine sometimes means inconsistency and spontaneity….which can be difficult for my Virgo analytical (a little bit of a control freak) mind.

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Let your faith be bigger than your fear.

faith-vs-fearWhat if we were able to keep envisioning what we wanted with utter faith, even when it seems it’s not working out?

The relationship. He’s not calling.

The job. They’re not calling.

The money. It’s not coming.

[Insert your wish here.]

Right now. Today. 

Our tendency is to lose faith so very quickly.

To give in. That its not going to happen. EVER.

We think it will soften the blow.

We’ll be less hurt. Because we knew it already.

But what if we kept envisioning the dream? Even when it seems that it’s not working out. Against all odds. What if we kept the beautiful vision alive?

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Stepping outside your comfort zone

Your life can be lived within a comfort zone – what you know, what’s expected of you, what will please others, and what feels stable, secure, and familiar.

Most probably though, your deepest dreams are on the other edge of this zone. They are a little wild, scary, unpredictable, unfamiliar, and adventurous.

Most of us resist crossing this edge because we are comfortable with what we know. Tweet it.

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Ever feel like your desires are in conflict with the way things are right now? Like you want to travel the world for six months but you love the comfort of your own bed. Or you know it’s time to leave a relationship but you’re scared of being alone or not finding someone better. Or deep down you really want to start your own biz but you feel stable and secure where you are.
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